I am a 25 year old male. In the last few years, I have become more sexually attracted to men than women. Does this mean I am gay? How does somebody know if they are gay?

There is no simple test that will determine your sexual orientation. You need to look for example at the content of your sexual fantasies. Do you tend to be focused more on males or exclusively on males? You also need to ask yourself how you feel about homosexuality. It would be helpful to find a support group so that you can be around others who have or are struggling with this issue. Being attracted to men is not a guarantee that you are gay. A lot of heterosexual men have fantasies of being sexual with another man. Typically, however, these fantasies are "fleeting". Most of their fantasies are concerning women. So again, you need to look inside. The only one who can answer this question is you. However, it is important that you remember that you are not alone no matter what turns out. - Answer provided by Michael Gonzales, Ph.D., mfgonzal@speakeasy.net, www.upasoc.com.

Kinsey believed that sexual orientation is on a continuum between zero and six where zero is exclusively heterosexual and six is exclusively homosexual. You may personally reside somewhere in the middle. I would encourage you to explore your own sexuality. Discovering your true interests and desires will help you realize your own sexual orientation.
- Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

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