My wife has told me she would like to have sex with another woman. She says she still loves me and is attracted to me, but has lately become attracted to women as well. I'm not sure how I feel about this. Should I be concerned?

When it comes to extramarital sex, regardless of whether it is straight or gay sex, emotional bonds are risked being broken. It is important for you and your wife to communicate about each others wants, desires, and intentions. Whether she has sex with another woman needs to be a mutual decision based on trust and commitment. It is unacceptable for one partner to engage in something that would make the other partner uncomfortable. Ultimately you and your wife will need to address your concerns so you both feel secure with whatever you choose to do. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

Whether it is sex with another woman or another guy, it is still a violation to what most people establish in a relationship - fidelity. If you make an arrangement with you partner to be with other people, then this is a different issue. Now the issue on the table is replacement - will this woman replace me? This is a question that will need to be discussed with your partner prior to her being sexual with another. Two women is a very common male sexual fantasy. You will need to be clear within yourself if this is really what you want and how you will deal with it if she begins to lean toward this woman and away from you. - Answer provided by Michael Gonzales, Ph.D., mfgonzal@speakeasy.net, www.upasoc.com.

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