When a woman performs oral sex on me I get too sensitive and have to pull myself away. I feel I'm missing out and am lost in how to overcome this problem. My partners would like to give me pleasure like I give them. Help!

I think it is important for you to communicate with your partners to let them know when you are becoming too sensitive. If it is too sensitive when they use their mouth, have them stop and manual stimulate you. They can incorporate both manual and oral stimulation. Clear communication up front will reduce your anxiety level and increase your overall pleasure.
- Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

Learning to give and receive exquisite oral pleasures is not an unusual challenge in our culture. Fellatio is performed by most women as a means to get her man off (and vice versa by the way.) She concentrates on fast and furious head bobbing and licking, driving her man to a premature release because she thinks that is what he wants. Encourage her to slow down and concentrate on massaging your testicles, pulling them gently away from your body to divert the sensitivity. Help her by relaxing and breathing; tell her where it is least sensitive and more enjoyable; ask for what you want and express what feels uncomfortable. You said she wants to pleasure you, so direct her in a way that is pleasurable to you both. There are Sensual Healers who coach Tantra and other forms of Sacred Sexuality who can help you understand how to redirect your sensitivity into your entire body and become multi-orgasmic. Nope, that is not a “too good to be true” statement; it can be done. I wish you well; you deserve it. - Answer provided by EveLynn Maurine, CSB, info@sacred-haven.org, www.sacred-haven.org, www.awakeningbody.com.

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