I am very turned on by my boss. He is gay. Doesn't that make me gay?

Are you turned on by your boss because of power or because you think he is sexy? They are two very different reasons. Kinsey believed that sexual orientation is on a continuum between zero and six where zero is exclusively heterosexual and six is exclusively homosexual. You may personally reside somewhere in the middle. I would encourage you to explore your own sexuality. Discovering your true interests and desires will help you realize your own sexual orientation. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

This is a question that is impossible for anyone else to answer. Sexual orientation is a complex and very difficult issue. Just because you are attracted to another man does not in itself mean you are gay. If however all of your sexual fantasies are of men, then gay is something that you need to consider. This does not define you as gay, it is simply something you need to consider seriously. - Answer provided by Michael Gonzales, Ph.D., mfgonzal@speakeasy.net, www.upasoc.com.

You did not specify in which way you are attracted to your boss. Perhaps you are attracted to his personality or his mannerisms. Or perhaps you are attracted to his power or the control he has over you at work. Such type of attraction is quite typical of employees for their employers, regardless of their sex. On a more sexual level, Alfred Kinsey, a famous sex researcher of the 1940s and 50s, in developing the "Kinsey Scale", concluded that we as human beings are neither absolutely heterosexual nor absolutely homosexual. According to Kinsey, the average person is bisexual. In other words, each of us is sexually attracted to both sexes. Therefore, it is "normal" for you to be heterosexual and still be attracted to, or have fantasies about, other men. - Answer provided by Faizal Sahukhan, Ph.D., A.C.S., R.P.C., AASECT, drfaizal@multiculturalromance.com, www.multiculturalromance.com.

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