I'm a 23 year old male virgin. I've been having sexual fantasies about men. I'm very comfortable with them. I want to have sex with a guy, but I'm not sure if I actually could if the opportunity presented itself because I fear I could get sexually transmitted diseases. Does my fantasies mean I might be/become bisexual/gay?

You ask a very important and impossible question for anyone to answer. Only you can answer the question about your sexual orientation. If, at the same time all of your sexual fantasies are about men, this is an important message to pay attention to. Disease is a very important issue and whether you are gay or straight this is an issue that deserves a lot of attention. AIDS is not spreading faster between men and women than between men. Bottom line, be careful no matter who you choose to be sexual with. There are ways to lessen that likelihood on transmission and you need to pay attention to them and practice them consistently. - Answer provided by Michael Gonzales, Ph.D., mfgonzal@speakeasy.net, www.upasoc.com.

I encourage you to explore your own sexuality. Discovering your true interests and desires will help you realize your own sexual orientation. If you are interested in having sex with guy, make sure you take what ever precautions you need and use protection.
- Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, Ph.D., MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

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