I have always been the monogamous type but recently my boyfriend and I have been discussing swinging. We're both young and divorced. I'm wondering why we are finding the need to go outside our relationship for sexual satisfaction.

(1) Habit is the anesthetic and the annihilator of happiness. You might want to check out what both of you expect to find in swinging that couldn't be achieved with each other.
(2) Both of you make out a list of what you like and want more of and what you dislike and want less of, and do some trading. (3) If it is the excitement that seems missing, try changing everything but your partner. Setting, time, technique. Some couples enjoy the inclusion of XXX rated videos as an adjunct to foreplay. The bottom line is that swinging is a dangerous alternative to monogamy, psychologically and physically. A famed therapist once said: "I've been married to 18 different women, all with the same name". Growth is essential in all areas. And growth always means change! Good success to you! - Answer provided by Tim Britton, Ph.D., AASECT, ABS, timbritton@yahoo.com.

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