Ever since the birth of our son our sex life has been non-existent between my husband and I. Now my husband is unable to get erection when it is time to have sex. He does have erections occasionally but when it comes time to have sex it doesn't happen. What is going on? Can you help?

I would take the focus off of sex and have you reconnect with each other. Take 30 minutes a day to focus on each other. Reconnect to the person you fell in love with. Utilize Masters and Johnson sensate focus. Sensate focus is a series of specific exercises for a couple which encourage each partner to take turns paying increased attention to their own senses. Please email me at DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com if you would like additional information on sensate focus. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, Ph.D., MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

Your issue is not uncommon among parents of newborns. Since your husband is still able to have erections, we can rule out a physiological basis for your concern. I wager then that there is a psychological/relational aspect to what is going on. You see, the time after your son was born was probably very difficult for your partner. You naturally were occupied with taking care of your child, but this time away from him your husband may have felt abandoned emotionally and rejected sexually by you. Perhaps he felt that you were no longer interested in him as a sexual partner. You see, when a man feels sexually rejected (whether or not there is truth to this), it is difficult for him to achieve an erection. What he needs from you is validation about your interest in him as a lover. Communicate openly with him about what the time since your son's birth has meant to you as a wife. And encourage your husband to share what this time has meant to him. As he feels understood, his confidence, and his penis, will "grow". - Answer provided by Faizal Sahukhan, Ph.D., A.C.S., R.P.C., AASECT, drfaizal@multiculturalromance.com, www.multiculturalromance.com.

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