My boyfriend thinks there is something wrong with him because he cannot orgasm more than once a day unless there is about a 10 hour period in-between. He thinks because he is 23, he should be able to go several times a day. I tell him everyone is different and he has nothing to worry about. Am I lying to him, or should we be genuinely concerned?

Get the "shoulds" out of your lovemaking! Seek out what you both are comfortable with. An honest explanation of what you want and need may help. You might want to check out verbally why he wants to have an orgasm more than once every 10 hours. Be cautious of setting any standard and then focusing on achieving the same. Sex can become goal-directed and a performance, rather than the sharing of two souls. Lighten up and enjoy! - Answer provided by Tim Britton, Ph.D., AASECT, ABS, timbritton@yahoo.com.

I think the concern your boyfriend has is that he cannot ejaculate more than once a day unless there is a long period of time in between. Your boyfriend will still be able to have an orgasm; he may just do it without ejaculate. Your boyfriend may be experiencing retrograde ejaculation. It may not be something to be worried about but it would not hurt to have him go see a urologist to rule out any medical issues. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, Ph.D., MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

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