I recently read an article on the topic of orgasms and that they may factor on the genes you have. Have you heard of this? This, if true, gives people no hope when trying so hard to achieve orgasm. I myself find it hard to believe that an orgasm is based on a gene rather than the idea of just learning to relax and enjoy.

Sex suffers from the law of diminishing returns. The more you put into it, the less you get out of it! Goal directed sex -- trying to get pregnant or achieving an orgasm -- makes the attainment of same much less likely. The focus becomes on goal achievement and we tend to forget to enjoy the trip. Sexual behavior is learned. The intensity of libido may be genetic -- no absolute here. My best advice would be to become an educated participant and then to explore a comfort zone with your partner. Let's enjoy the trip rather than focusing on the destination. - Answer provided by Tim Britton, Ph.D., AASECT, ABS, timbritton@yahoo.com.

I read the same article as you. It makes sense that a women’s ability to have an orgasm is at least partly determined by her genes. However, it does not mean women who inherit an unfortunate gene package are hopeless. There are many different approaches that can help most women increase their ability to achieve orgasm. Women are complex. Their personal relationships and how they feel about sex can also influence their ability to have orgasms. I think this new information may lead to more targeted treatment. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, Ph.D., MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

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