I am in the sensual product selling business. A few of the girls that never owned a vibrator were afraid to buy one because they heard they can get addicted to one. I advised that anything used in moderation is OK. I also know that using a vibrator often (at least once a day) can desensitize the clitoris. So that when it is touched with a true hand it is not as sensitive to that touch. But I also know that when left alone for a few days the sensitivity comes back. What advice can I give to these women? I feel every female should
own a vibrator.

Addiction is a major concern of many women. I believe that what you are saying and the direction that you are taking is correct and helpful. - Answer provided by Michael Gonzales, Ph.D., mfgonzal@speakeasy.net, www.upasoc.com.

Hopefully, you won't be giving advice re: sexual issues to these women. Each individual has his/her specific issues, wants and needs and should be "treated" individually with respect. The suggestion of the use of a vibrator will be acceptable and not necessary for many women who have discovered them on their own. Other women will find the mere suggestion to be offensive. A radical suggestion may be to mention the use of a vibrator as a sex toy for both partners, rather than focusing on her. - Answer provided by Tim Britton, Ph.D., AASECT, ABS, timbritton@yahoo.com.
 

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