I have recently gone the route of trying to improve my sex life. I have quit smoking. I have gone to a dietician to recommend a strong diet. I exercise 3 days a week. I can gain an erection while masturbating, however, as soon as I release my penis, I go soft. The same occurs during sex. Is there any exercise, food or thought process I can implement into my life that will allow me to maintain a strong erection?

Firstly....an erection isn't necessary for ejaculation. Your concerns about your erection may contribute to erectile issues. Get your family GP to refer you to a good urologist for a consult and make sure the "equipment" is in good shape. Next step should be to locate a good board certified sex therapist for a few therapy sessions. Good success! - Answer provided by Tim Britton, Ph.D., AASECT, ABS, timbritton@yahoo.com.

I acknowledge you for working on improving your health and sex life. Most men are sometimes unable to maintain an erection at some point in their lives. I recommend you take the focus off of intercourse and focus on other activities such as oral or manual stimulation. Anxiety can be a major contributing factor to your inability to maintain an erection. You need to relax and enjoy the sensations and at the first sign of anxiety stop and return to a point where no anxiety was present. Eventually this process will help you maintain a strong erection. In addition you can visit a medical doctor and try one of the erectile dysfunction medications. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, Ph.D., MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.


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