Why would a partner who has no reservations about any other sexual or sensual experience refuse to kiss? He likes to experiment with anything new I ask him to do, even toys, but does not kiss me. Please advise.

If kissing during sex is important to you then you need to talk to your partner about this. I recommend you talk with him outside of the bedroom. Do this over dinner or while driving in the car. Express your concern and your desire to incorporate kissing into your lovemaking. Find out what his reservations are. Is bad breath a concern? If so find ways to remedy this. Most importantly, communicate about what is going on for you. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, Ph.D., MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

That's a question that should be asked of your partner. Kissing is a very intimate act. So they simply avoid it. It creates too great a sense of closeness, a commitment that they do not want to make. Prostitutes often do not kiss their clients for this reason. You mentioned all of the adventurous things that your partner is willing to participate in. But you do not say anything about intimacy. Activities that are purely sexual in nature are not necessarily intimate. They are playful. Kissing makes the event more intimate. Furthermore, in order for a couple to enjoy kissing, they must practice. However, some people have difficulty telling their partner that they do not like the way the partner kisses...or that their breath smells. - Answer provided by Edward A. Dreyfus, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist & Life Coach, www.docdreyfus.com, ead@docdreyfus.com.


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