Most times when my boyfriend and I have sex there are times when he is thrusting and my vagina will make an embarrassing sound. And if he pulls all the way out to change positions it is even worse! It is almost like a farting sound. And if we are not using a condom and he ejaculates inside of me his ejaculate just falls out. Can you help me figure out what is wrong with me? It is so embarrassing. I am at the point where I try to avoid sex all together! Thank you!

First of all, there is absolutely nothing "wrong" with you. What you are describing is referred to in layman's term as "vaginal farting", something most, if not all, women experience at some time. Basically, when you are having intercourse with your partner, your vagina accumulates air. Now when your partner thrusts deeply into the trapped air, you hear this sound. You did not share how you boyfriend feels about this sound. I would recommend that you let him read the answers to your question so that he too does not regard the "farting" as a concern. A bit of advice: next time it happens, instead of becoming self-conscious, just look at one another and have a chuckle together. Having good sex is about sharing all aspects of one's sexual response together. - Answer provided by Faizal Sahukhan, Ph.D., A.C.S., R.P.C., AASECT, drfaizal@multiculturalromance.com, www.multiculturalromance.com.

Yes! It can be embarrassing to make sounds with your vagina, but remember . . .your boyfriend is participating in the creation of those sounds, too! There is nothing wrong with you! What happens is that during thrusting, the vagina hugs the penis as it thrusts in and out, but there may be a slight gap around the penis where air can surround it for a moment. When he pulls back, the air escapes! NO BIGGIE! As for your concern about the ejaculate "falling out" of the vagina, this is common and not a problem unless you are attempting to conceive a child. If that is the case, simply prop your hips up on some pillows after the ejaculation, and plenty of semen will remain right where it needs to be to be pulled into the cervix and then the uterus and on to the waiting egg in the fallopian tube. I hope that you and your boyfriend can learn to be comfortable with the sounds that your body makes during intercourse. Sex can be noisy . . .don't give up on it! - Answer provided by Linda Newharet Lotz, MSW, PhD, Swansong51@aol.com


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