I have been married for about a year now and the sex life is great except that I don't feel I completely satisfy my husband. I am afraid to try new things because I don't have much experience and he has plenty more experience. What are some things I can try to please my husband?

I'm wondering why you feel that you are not satisfying your husband. Has he given you any indication of this or is it that you would like to please him more? I suggest that you have an open discussion with your partner about your concerns. He will be flattered that you, despite the "sex life [being] great", are trying to make an extra effort. Encourage him to share some of his fantasies with you, which could be very exciting for both of you, and ask him if he would like to live out some of them with you. Keep in mind that it does not take experience to try new things; in fact, it is the inexperience that makes trying new things that much more fun.
- Answer provided by Faizal Sahukhan, Ph.D., A.C.S., R.P.C., AASECT, drfaizal@multiculturalromance.com, www.multiculturalromance.com.

The worst enemy of good sex is SILENCE! You may be assuming he isn't completely satisfied when he may be. If you don't talk about it you will never know. Why not ask him what things he would like to experience with you and if they don't offend you, give it a try!
- Answer provided by Dr. Shay Roop, RN, LMHC, Ed.D, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Board Certified by the American Board of Sexology, shay@drshay.org, www.drshay.org.

There are a variety of things you can do with your husband. I would express your concern with your husband and ask him to be supportive. I would also ask him what he would like you to do. I am sure he has some fantasies. Most importantly is to have this conversation out of the bedroom. Have it while you are driving in the car or over dinner. It will be less threatening at that time. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, Ph.D., MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.


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