My penis size is very small. It is around 3.5 inches at the time of erection. Also, it is very thin. I consulted with a doctor to improve the size and girth. He told me that there is no medicine which can enlarge the penis length & improve girth. Please advise if there is any medicine to improve my penis structure.

None, nada, zilch, regardless of many fraudulent claims to the contrary. Your penis size is part of your being. You have to focus on spending time with partners who cherish the whole package. You may want to focus on fine tuning cunnilingus and foreplay skills and be incredibly responsive to your partners' needs. Penis size can become irrelevant. Lots of research indicates that this seems more important to men than women anyhow. Happy 2006!
- Answer provided by Tim Britton, Ph.D., AASECT, ABS, timbritton@yahoo.com.

I know that penis size is a big deal for most men. Men like everything big. Big cars, big breasts, and big dicks. It makes them feel like big shots! However, in order to be an effective lover one has to give up the notion that bigger is better. Penis size has little to do with whether you can satisfy a woman. Size is a psychological issue for most men and some women. They both have fantasies of having and seeing a big "tool" and this fantasy, promoted by the pornography industry, is what turns them on; it is not the size itself. That being said, some women with large vaginas, say that they cannot feel their partner inside them. For example, after a woman has a baby her vagina has stretched. And both men and women have said that they are not able to feel the same sensations when having intercourse because of the lack of friction. However, sex is more about what goes on between your ears rather than between your legs. If you are a good lover, sensitive to your partner's needs, and more concerned about having an intimate connection than about climaxing, your penis size should not be important. If a large penis where important for sex, then why would so many men and women enjoy having a man masturbate them. Surely our fingers and our tongues are not huge! My suggestion to you is to learn more about how to connect with women, how to make them feel good with you, and learning more about what pleases them. Most women appreciate a gentle, warm, loving, intimate connection. Once that occurs, satisfying sex will occur as well. Oh, by the way, your doctor is correct; there are no medications that will improve your penis structure. - Answer provided by Edward A. Dreyfus, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist & Life Coach, www.docdreyfus.com, ead@docdreyfus.com

There doesn’t seem to be medical way to improve penis size. Even the implants they do for medical impenitency can only work with what is already there. There is no muscle you can pump up like a bicep. More important than size, however, is what you do with it. When you experiment, there are a lot of things you and your woman will be able to do that other couples won’t. - Answer provided by Jenny Friend, MFT, Board Certified Clinical Sexologist, JennyFriendMFT@sbcglobal.net, www.CenterForClarity.org.

What your doctor told you is correct. There is no medication which can enlarge penis length and improve girth. I suggest you not focus on penis size. The most sensitive part of the vagina is the inner third and your penis would be able to satisfy that. In addition the majority of women are not going to be able to have an orgasm by intercourse alone. They will need clitoral stimulation. Take the focus off of intercourse and instead focus on satisfying them prior to intercourse with oral or manual stimulation. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, Ph.D., MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

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