My boyfriend has a fantasy about me being with him and another guy. How would we go about fulfilling this without it affecting our relationship?

It's really great that the 2 of you are open and willing to discuss your fantasies and wishes to fulfill them. The first thing you both need to do is be clear that the 2 of you want to do this and to discuss what it would mean in terms of your relationship. If there is apprehension, do discuss those feelings with each other. Once all the concerns and/or questions are out on the table you both can decide if you still want to go through with it. Then the discussion moves to when and who the other guy would be. A friend? A stranger? Also it will be important to discuss safe sex practices. - Answer provided by Alan L. Marcus, Ph.D., AASECT Certified, drmarcus@tmail.com, www.gpatherapy.com.

First you would want to be clear on the ground rules. You both would need to set up specific rules and both need to be in agreement on the person and place this would happen. You would have to have a very adult conversation and discuss all of your concerns and fears. If it is something you are interested in, I suggest finding out information about some swingers groups in your area. That being said, I would have concerns as to why your boyfriend would want you to be with him and another guy. Does he not value you and your relationship? Those are things to think about before engaging in this type of activity. - Answer provided by Jason S. Quintal, Ph.D., MSW, LCSW, DrJ@RelationshipSpecialties.com, www.RelationshipSpecialties.com.

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