I'm not sure if my boyfriend has E.D. or not, but in the last 10 months that we have been sleeping together he has never cummed or orgasmed. He says that my vagina is too tight for his penis and thus causes his penis to become numb. He has no problem when he masturbates by himself, but he prefers a softer touch to a rougher one. I don't know what to do about our sex life since I am the only person he has ever slept with.

It doesn't sound like your boyfriend has erectile dysfunction since he is able to achieve erection and reach orgasm through masturbation. Perhaps your love-making could include a combination of several techniques: oral, intercourse, and masturbation. Don't stop looking for ways to please each other. Continue to try new techniques and revisit those that you haven't tried in awhile. - Answer provided by Steven Davidson, LCSW, stevendavidson@comcast.net, www.nashvillepsychotherapy.com.

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