You always hear of women having trouble reaching orgasm and men having trouble keeping themselves from orgasming too quickly. Well in my relationship our roles are reversed. I'm a 21 year old female and my boyfriend is 26. Sex has recently become an issue after the birth of our daughter about a year ago. In my case I orgasm way too quickly... within minutes of penetration, and afterwards I try too keep interested but I loose my libido and have trouble keeping myself lubricated. So my boyfriend usually gives up and never gets the chance to climax. He usually can last up to an hour but I'm done in 2 minutes! I want a normal sex life again! What can we do? HELP!

Just like men with premature ejaculation, you can work to slow yourself down. I would wonder why you're in such a hurry. Maybe you want to get sex over with because you are worried about the baby waking up. I would try relaxing and enjoying some more foreplay. If you still have an orgasm first, losing interest and rolling over is kind of selfish--you wouldn't like it if your boyfriend did that to you. So put a little more energy into helping him to climax. Seeing him respond to you may turn you on again, and maybe you'll want to go for orgasm #2.
 - Answer provided by Stephanie Buehler, PsyD, Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, drbuehler@cox.net, www.thebuehlerinstitute.com.

Since this is a change since your delivery, I would suggest to talk to your doctor about it to rule out physical causes. I would also recommend to enjoy other forms of sexual activities and leave penetration for later during the sex, when your partner is ready to orgasm. That would increases the chances of you both having orgasm. - Answer provided by Bita Sharifzadeh, M.Ps., Clinical Psychologist, bita@bita-psychologist.com, www.bita-psychologist.com.

What is reported here is not atypical. Women have the physical ability to have multiple orgasms. So the issue here is not the female having multiple orgasms, the problem seems to be how this is managed in this relationship. First of all, there is no such thing as orgasming too quickly. Your challenge is to learn to stay interested in sex after orgasm, which you can do. I am not trying to indicate that this is easy, I am only saying that it is possible, it will take work. - Answer provided by Michael Gonzales, Ph.D., mfgonzal@speakeasy.net, www.upasoc.com.

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