I am a 45 year old male and recently have had the desire for my wife to wear a strap-on and penetrate me from behind. Should I be concerned about this?

Only if your wife doesn't want to participate. Many straight men enjoy anal play and / or penetration. There isn't anything abnormal about wanting to experiment. Let your wife know this, and see if you can interest her in trying this sexual experiment. If she doesn't want to, be respectful. Find out why she objects. Then make your case and let her decide. Sex play of any kind is only fun when both people feel okay about what they are doing. - Answer provided by Stephanie Buehler, PsyD, Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, drbuehler@cox.net, www.thebuehlerinstitute.com.

As long as your partner and you both enjoy whatever it is that you are doing, you do not need to be concerned about having a creative mind and experiencing various forms of sexual activities. - Answer provided by Bita Sharifzadeh, M.Ps., Clinical Psychologist,
bita@bita-psychologist.com, www.bita-psychologist.com.

This desire alone does not indicate anything to be concerned about. If, however, you are fantasizing about being sexual with men, then worry is appropriate. Not that being gay is a "bad" thing, it would simply mean that your sexual "object" is different than who you are being sexual with. If your fantasies are not men, then enjoy being penetrated. A man's prostrate is located in the anus and is stimulated with penetration. So, enjoy it. - Answer provided by Michael Gonzales, Ph.D., mfgonzal@speakeasy.net, www.upasoc.com.

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