IMPROVING YOUR SEX LIFE

I am fine with my husband looking at porn on the Internet, but recently, I saw he not only looked at but paid a membership fee for a site! Not only am I deeply disturbed but I have no idea how to question him about it! I was basically snooping when I used his computer. What do I do? Click here for answers.

I'm 18 and I've been sexually active for a year now. I've only had one partner. Unfortunately I don't feel any pleasure from vaginal intercourse. I just feel him inside of me and that's about it. It's really disappointing to me because I feel abnormal even though it's normal for most women. Is this something that could change with a change of partner or am I just doomed with a bad sex life. I do feel stimulation to my clitoris and I can orgasm from it. It just seems that everyone else I know has been normal and I'm not. Click here for answers.

I am a 20 year old nurse. I have been with my husband for 3 years. We are very much in love but I have absolutely no libido. I used to have an insatiable sex drive from the time I was 13, but when I hit about 18 it tapered off into nonexistence. My husband is an excellent lover but I am not reaching orgasm with him any more (or at all because I don't masturbate any more either). So what happened to my sex drive? I have not changed my medications except for my birth control pills which are Lybrel, and that was just in the last 2 months. Do you have any clue what is wrong or what I can do about it. My husband is very sweet and understanding but it still adds stress to our relationship, as you could imagine. Any input would be greatly appreciated. Click here for answers.

I am a 24 year old female, and I have a kind of strange problem. When I am first being intimate with someone and I get aroused, I start feeling nauseous and occasionally actually get sick. At first I can't do any more than kissing before I get aroused and start feeling sick, and as time goes by I am able to do more with my partner (e.g. petting, etc). After my body "gets used" to being with my partner (which often takes weeks), I am able to have normal sex and enjoy it, but the nausea at the beginning is kind of odd. It has happened with all my partners, who have fortunately been understanding. Can you shed any light on what may be going on here? Click here for answers.

I am 24 year old woman and can only have an orgasm if I masturbate when there is pornography. I cannot come if I masturbate without porn or if I have sex with my boyfriend. I have been dating a guy for five months and I haven't achieved an orgasm with him. Please help me so that I can have a satisfying sex life with my boyfriend. Click here for answers.

I am a 20 year old male who has been sexually active for about half a year now. Whenever I receive either manual or oral stimulation, I find it difficult to maintain an erection over about 6 out of 10, and have never orgasmed during these modes of stimulation. However, during penetrative sex, I am able to orgasm after longer periods of time (15-45 minutes). I was wondering what could be causing this issue? One thing that might be playing a hand in this (pun intended), is the fact that ever since I started masturbating at around the age of 13, I have never used lubrication and have always used a very firm grip. Have I desensitized myself to the point where these methods of stimulation have little to no effect on me? Click here for answers.

I have been dating my boyfriend for a while. I have always prided myself on being a great lover. My problem is that he does some wonderful things in bed (tricks if you will) and I feel a little out of my league. I am wondering if there are any tips or advice to stimulate him more. On the average he will make me orgasm 4-5 times which is great. I would like to surprise him with something. Click here for answers.

My wife and I, both in our early 20's and only ever with each other, have been using a "your turn-my turn" sexual method since we became active. She responds only to a clitoral vibrator and is uncomfortable with manual or oral stimulation. The difficulty arises in that by the time she finishes, I am physically unaroused and once I get going again, she is both emotionally and physically disinterested (she gets a bit dry and I sometimes can't seem to stay inside her). I would like to know if there are techniques or changes we can make to be more in synch with one another. So far it has not been an issue between us, but I like to nip these things in the bud, so to speak. Click here for answers.

My boyfriend became very jealous soon after we became intimate. He admits that I have given him no reason to mistrust me but he just can't let my past relationships go. I am starting to resent him and the idea of even seeing him is beginning to bother me. The trouble is he is perfect in every other way and I do love him. Should I let him go or try to work it out. Will he be able to let go of my past? Click here for answers.

My fiancé and I have been together for 8 1/2 years. When we started to have sex, every time we did it, he would turn to porn. I thought that it was me; I wasn't good enough, I wasn't satisfying him, I wasn't attractive, etc. Then he stopped, but my jealousy got really bad, and now I find myself in a very bad predicament. I started accusing him almost everyday that he was cheating on me, and I think that the porn has an underlying effect. He said that he wanted a break from me, because accusing him all these years has torn him apart. He says that he wants to get back with me, but from the moment that he said he wanted a break, he started to watch porn again. I asked him why and he said that he just needed it right now. I asked him what was it about porn that he liked and he said it was the sound and the cum shots on girls faces. While we are apart, we have had sex. He has started to do things to me that he has never done before; anal sex, and cumming on my face. I realize now that I don't mind porn all that much anymore, but I am afraid that it's going to become an all the time thing again, and I NEED the intimacy as well. It seems like he likes the dirty sex all the time. What should I do? Click here for answers.

I'm 30 and have two kids. My marriage is strained because I just don't have any interest in sex. It hurts my husband because I'd much rather sleep. When we do have sex I just want it to hurry up and be over. Personally I think helping with the kids and around the house would be like foreplay but he thinks that's crazy. After a day at home with kids the last thing I want to deal with is someone else wanting something from me. Is there something wrong with me physically? How can I get help so that we can get back to the healthy, satisfying sex like we once had? Click here for answers.

Once every three months or so, I experience some vaginal tearing during intercourse. I know the cause is the size of my husband's penis. We have to buy the Magnum extra large to fit him and normally the size of his penis isn't an issue. The occasional tearing, however, is pretty painful. Sometimes it's a small eye shape just inside my opening. It hurts the worst when I urinate and I normally cannot have sex again for about two weeks. Is there any sort of OTC medication I could use to help it heal quicker or to lessen the pain? Click here for answers.

My fiancé and I have been together for over three years (I'm 30, he's 28). In the beginning he never had any issues with maintaining an erection. For the past year and a half he has had issues becoming erect or keeping his erection - it started every once in awhile - now it's almost always an issue. I have been patient, and have told him there are other ways to please each other. He is turning to masturbation versus me and refuses to even begin kissing me now because he doesn't want anything to turn into sex. He also wakes up erect and has ejaculated in his sleep 5 times in the last year. The only time we can make love is when he is in control and it almost hits me by surprise, or if we are on vacation. I love him, but this is starting to make me feel like he can orgasm from anything but me & it hurts. I am a very sexual person and I know he used to be (he is famous in his country & I know the stories!) This is starting to affect our relationship & he is starting to lie about masturbating for some reason. We went to a Dr., but he is in great shape. If it's not medical and he's able to manually become excited and ejaculate, and he can only make love to me on random whims or extreme conditions - is it possible that he is still physically attracted to me? This is an off limits conversation, because I've read expressing anything can increase the issue, but I'm feeling neglected at this point. Is it a bad idea to express that he needs to please me even if it doesn't result in anything for him? (He used to enjoy pleasing me.) If he was attracted to me & he focused on pleasing me, wouldn't an erection come naturally? Sorry for all of the questions - I'm just at a loss. Thanks in advance for your help! Click here for answers.

My boyfriend is going through a big life change right now. His band has just been signed and they are already planning to tour much of next year and of course the years to follow will take suit. I feel like he is feeling all of the superficial pressures to become a rock star type and as such he is pulling away from me and our cozy domestic world. He has been very elusive, dark and vague and it is killing us. I am trying to hang in as long as possible but without sex I am left feeling terribly neglected. He never wants me anymore and even declines my blowjob offers. Its insane! He says he is depressed and never thinks about sex, which I know is not true thanks to Internet histories - yes I see he is spending time looking at porn. I am a very attractive sensual girl and I need the reassurance that sex brings to a relationship. Does it seem like a dead end? What can I do to start up our sex life again without running the risk pushing him further away? Click here for answers.

I started dating a girl who I have had a crush on for the last year and I was so stoked when we finally got together. We started having sex a month or so ago and something is wrong. I have been with a few different girls but she digs her fingernails into my back and chest during sex and leaves nasty marks and blood sometimes. On top of that, she is into biting my lips, nipples and skin to the point where it is painful. I am into this girl but this is just a turn-off to me. When she’s doing this that's all I can think of and now twice I have lost my “game”. Sex is supposed to feel good, not painful. I want to bring it up but don't know how and we are too into each other to just walk away from this. HELP ME, please. Click here for answers.

I have been married for about a year now and the sex life is great except that I don't feel I completely satisfy my husband. I am afraid to try new things because I don't have much experience and he has plenty more experience. What are some things I can try to please my husband? Click here for answers.

My husband and I have been together for over 3 years and the sex is great but for some reason ever since I had my son it has been hard for me to reach climax. Orally I can, but I can't during intercourse and if I do it takes forever. What can I do to help myself and what can he do to help me? Click here for answers.

I am a twenty-seven year old who is married but find the sex boring and feel like it is a mandatory thing for me to do. How can I make myself want to make love again with my husband instead of feeling like I have to? Click here for answers.

More >