IMPROVING YOUR SEX LIFE

I believe that I have a low sex drive. My husband desires sex more frequently than I do. I am usually interested before & after my cycle. Other than that I am usually ready to go to sleep. I work full time and have a 3 year old. Is there something I can do to improve my drive? My spouse is EXTREMELY frustrated. I do love him and don't have a problem with arousal or sex itself, but in my mind, it's more of a chore sometimes. Click here for answers.

Hi, I'm a 33 year old male and happily married to my 33 year old wife. I guess for about a few years our sex relationship hasn't been the greats. I have tried to talk to her about it. Lately, it seems to me that when we have sex there is no lust or passion on her part. Meaning, she just has sex with me so I will not complain about having no sex for a while. Today, I told her how I feel and that it was hurting our sex relationship. I asked her again what is going on and she stated to me a couple of things that happened to her when she was 7 years old. She also told me that she is embarrassed to do sexual things to me, where at the beginning of our relationship, it wasn't a problem. After doing some exploring on the Internet, I think she has something called ISD (Inhibited Sexual Desire). I believe she needs a sex therapist but in our area there is no ABS Board Certified Sex Therapist. If you could give me some information or help, please let me know. Thank you. New Mexico area. Click here for answers.

My boyfriend takes a long time to finish and I start to hurt after a while. How can I help him get satisfied without getting tired or starting to get pains in my legs? Click here for answers. Click here for answers.

Is it normal for a man not to have sex or touch a woman in any way, not even skin contact, for over a year, and says he hardly ever masturbates? Also, is it normal for a man to watch live sex acts on a web cam and (maybe, I'm not sure) masturbate to that? I have been with my boyfriend for going on 7 years and only had sex maybe 10 times. None in over a year. He does have anxiety and depression. But even when we first started living together, he wouldn't touch me. Click here for answers.

How can one avoid taking disinterest personally, and more importantly how can I resolve it? My wife (28) and I (25) have been married for 5 years and have two children, 2 and 4. I mention this because they do take up quite a bit of our time and energy. The last time I have been satisfied with our sexual relationship is when my wife was pregnant with our first child (and was pretty happy before then), and we were having sex on average of twice a week. After recovery from the birth process, we would still have sex, but the frequency had dropped to two or three times a month at best. I attributed this to hormonal after-effects of pregnancy, but it never went away. Twice a month, while less than I desire, was acceptable and I could live with it, especially since I too was tired from helping take care of the child. During (and after) the pregnancy of our second child, things got worse. Our frequency dropped to once or twice a month, and her general affection (not just in the bedroom) became virtually nonexistent. It has gotten to the point where open mouth kissing is rare, and any hugging or contact is (90% of the time) initiated by me. She gets irritable towards me if I try and kiss her and perhaps make a move when we lay down to sleep (and yes, I always start with some sort of foreplay rather than simply hopping on). Moreover, she gets very defensive and hostile when I try to explain the way I feel about the issue, and throws it back that "that's all I ever think about". I am now at the edge of my rope. Perhaps I am overreacting, but I go through a great deal of emotional pain over the issue. Every rejection hurts more than the previous. Over the past year we have had sex on average of once a month, with at least one instance of two and a half months in-between. I have never been a person into pornography, but have found myself looking at it lately. Masturbation provides some relief, but lacks the intimacy of making love. I have also never believed myself capable of cheating, but am starting to feel the urge to be with anyone as long as they actually want to be with me. I love my wife dearly, and despite the hardships still want to spend the rest of my life with her, but I have no clue where to start. I cannot continue as I am, as the results will either be divorce or an affair (which could also lead to divorce). Click here for answers.

New relationship. Met a 45 year old man who was never "trained" to please a woman and has no clue what's down there. I feel he's worth the effort. What should I do to help him along? Where do I start? Click here for answers.

I am a 29 year old male and I have had sex before, but with my current girlfriend I cannot seem to be able to do it. She is a virgin and we have tried a few times but I can't seem to be able to enter her. Could you please help us? Click here for answers.

Is she tired? My girlfriend can barely stop from yawning and keeps checking the time so she can run off to bed. She shows no attempt at being affectionate and her body language is very closed off on "her side of the bed". I assume that she is actually tired but then after 20 or so minutes she starts with "YOU never make the first move!" She feels she can't be affectionate until after we have sex, whereas I feel affection and intimacy LEADS to sex. We seem to be in a sort of role reversal. She will not open up and let her guard down by being affectionate and I don't feel sexually excited when she just lies there trying to sleep. What do we do? Click here for answers.

My wife and I were married in 2004, and have been together since 1990. We make love once a month. I could go for it once a week, or twice a month, but it's not up to me. I try to make a move on her, but she pushes me away. When she wants sex, she gets upset when I push her away. And when we do make love, it always starts out the same way. I love my wife dearly and would not give her up, no how, and I know she is not sleeping around. It's always been like this, but lately it has gotten worse. Any kind of advice will work at this point. If I knew what I was looking for and was safe, I would put something in her Pepsi to make her just a little in the mood. Thank you. Click here for answers.

How can I get my husband to want to have more sex? I like to use toys but I don't think he knows that. We have been married for 4 years now and I am scared that he will think I am disgusting. Click here for answers.

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