IMPROVING YOUR SEX LIFE

Is it normal for a married couple to go as long as 2-3 months without sex? I am not aware of anything going on with my wife that would lead to problems in the bed. Click here for answers.

I'm only doing this because my fiancé is wanting me to and because I want to know what's wrong with me. Basically, the only time we have ever had sex is when I am intoxicated. I have never had sex with him when I was sober simply because I don't know how to relax. I tense up and I can't do it. Is that normal? I really want to, but for whatever reason, I freak out. Click here for answers.

I'm 43 years old. I've never been married or been in a long term serious relationship, and I think the main reason for that is that I don't like sex. It's been 18 years since I've been with a man, and I really don't care if I ever have sex again. Is there something I can take to increase my sexual desire, or do some people just never have that desire? Click here for answers.

I've really made a mess of things with my current boyfriend. He isn't very skilled and refuses to discuss anything relating to sex. “That's the way I do it" is his answer. He has no idea what foreplay is. Once he has an erection, that's it - it's time to "do it". He "once had a bad experience" with oral sex and refuses to perform that on me, although he generously allows me to perform oral sex on him. The real problem is that I have faked orgasms for 2.5 years with him. I don't feel I can continue doing that, but I am at a serious loss as to how to "tell him" or change anything. Can you help? Click here for answers.

My boyfriend and I had a very active sex life for the first 6 months, then all of a sudden something changed and now we have sex maybe twice a month. Things have gotten so bad that neither of us can approach the other one for sex because we just feel so uncomfortable. The thing is we both realize that there is a problem and have tried to fix it but to no avail and just end up arguing and making things worse. It has been going on now for three years and we have had two children in this period. I have a high sex drive and take him making no or few advances as rejection. What also upsets me is that he used to have a lot of one night stands before we met and seemed to be very open sexually with these women whereas I feel that he is uncomfortable talking about sex with me and telling me what he would like sexually. I have brought this subject up with him and he says he has no answers and doesn't know where things went wrong. I do believe he loves me and I love him...everything else in our relationship is going well but this small problem is starting to make me doubt everything and is affecting my mood. I don't know how much longer I can stay in the relationship with this little physical contact. What can we do to try and fix this problem without it seeming forced? Click here for answers.

I've been married for almost 3 years now. My husband and I rarely have any sex. When I try to initiate intimacy he always finds a way to turn me down. Either he's tired, his back hurts, or he says he doesn't feel comfortable being naked because he hates how he looks. I have never taken a shower with him. I want to have a sexual partner and not just a roommate. I have wondered if he's gay. I have asked him and he says no. He blames it on my work schedule, but I think this is an excuse. We both have Sundays off -- if he really wanted to initiate intimacy. Is this normal? What can I do? Click here for answers.

When a woman performs oral sex on me I get too sensitive and have to pull myself away. I feel I'm missing out and am lost in how to overcome this problem. My partners would like to give me pleasure like I give them. Help! Click here for answers.

I have been married now for nearly nine years to the woman I have always loved since I could remember. We have had a very loving marriage as well as the addition of our two children. However, as time has passed, the time we spend in the bedroom has dwindled to nearly non-existence. We make love maybe once a month, if I'm lucky, but there have been times we go longer without sexual relations. For the past few months now I have noticed a pattern that has left me with a feeling of inadequacy. I have tried making advances sexually to her only to be told she was not in the mood and tired, which is understandable, as she works a third shift. After being rejected I went to the living room to read a book and after selecting the book I recalled my glasses were in the bedroom. I started to open the door to find her quite shockingly involved in masturbation. I know that it is a normal thing so I let her alone and watched television instead. Now every time I am turned down I can find her in the bedroom or bathroom masturbating. I am now left with feelings of inadequacy. I can't stop thinking about this fact that she seems rather fond of doing this instead of being with me. What can I do? I have spoken to her and asked her about this but she simply says it's not a problem with me but something she needs to work on, avoiding the question all together. I have offered to find some sort of male enhancement drugs but she says that isn't the problem. I don't know what to think or do about this but it is tearing me up inside and leaving me feeling like the only time she does want to have sex with me is when she feels like it is an obligation, or feels guilty about how long it has been since we last were intimate. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, because as I said, I am confused by this. Click here for answers.

I have no sexual desire. Nothing that my husband says or does excites me or even makes me interested. There was a point in my life when sex was everything. Now I could care less. I am concerned that it will interfere with my marriage. I don't even have a desire to cuddle or kiss my husband. Is there something wrong with me? I have a 15 month old daughter and I lost twins during my first trimester about a year before I conceived my daughter. Does this have an effect on my behavior? What can I do to change things? Please help. Click here for answers.

Is it possible for a man's penis to get used to not wearing a condom? I'm with a guy who's only had sex with one other person before and he told me that he never used a condom, and when he has sex with me with a condom, he goes flaccid. What is the cause of this, and what should I do? Click here for answers.

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